under normal circumstances will you marry someone older than you?

[swagga]

There is a saying "condition nahim make crayfish bend" but under normal circumstances where you don't have "paper problem" "or money problem" will you marry someone older than you? what is the maximum age you will consider marrying under any circumstances?

[Alvin Adewunmi]

Love is blind. You find youself attracted to older man. You don't mind marrying him even you're 20 and he's 60.

[swagga]

Alvin i'ts nearly tea time here in the UK! The thought of sum1 my age marrying sum1 older than my father is quite honestly putting me off my dinner right now. It sounds almost incestous. What will they talk about? different generation, different interest level and different energy levels. How will the man keep up with the matrimonial bedroom obligations? I find it hard to believe that such couple are genuinely in luv with each other. In my experience there is always a hidden agenda. Have u ever seen a young girl marrying a poor old man who has nothing to offer her? apart from my creazy friend- thats a different story. These gurls usually marry rich old men or middle income/poor ones who live overseas because they can offer them an escape from their third world countries. These relationships usually end in tears for the older party like in the case of my Uncle. He brought a so called Christain girl (witch) from Nigeria and after 5 years she got her citizenship and left almost immediately to marry her ex boyfriend from Nigeria. What is most hurtful is that the 2 children she had during the marriage turned out not to be my Uncle's but her boyfriends. My Uncle also lost his house and at 64 years is starting life all over again. This witch has since brought the boy overseas and both are now living in one of the European countries while my Uncle is now permanently on anti-depressants.

I'm not saying some relationships are not genuine but in my experience the 20 and 60 relationship there is always a hidden agenda. Are you telling me this young gurls prefer older men to a hot blodded young stud? These older man are in my opinion better off dating sum1 their own age unless they want to risk the heartache that goes with a tempting young fruit. Men over 50 and 60 should choose their partners with a lot more care than sum1 say 20s and 30s because many men their own age are happily married and settled into family life and least we forget old age is round the corner. As such, any consideration on selecting a future mate needs to be done very carefully, the 60 year don't want to be single again at 65 or 70, do they? even where they dont get divorced, what about starting a family and family life?. Will these young gurls be looking after babies and looking after the old man? Will the man also be vibrant sexually at say 70s and 80s to satisfy their young wives who will be in her 30s or 40s at the time or will they be happy for other men to help them out in this department?.

Old men and young gurls relationship are in my opinion a fantasy, usually the old want to relieve their youth and experience another generation. It almost like a denial if not a rebellion against their looming old age. In practise it does not work. If you ask me any old man who want long term stability and happiness is better off marrying a women his own age, unless the individual wants to be used.

[Alvin Adewunmi]

Talk about woman marrying older man,......woman is also marrying younger man, 10, 20 years younger than her age nowadays. When you love someone, age is not important. Of course, there are also risk that the younger man would cheat the older woman her money. The younger man who is not sincere would prey older rich woman who is lonely. But that doesn't mean love can't exist between an older woman and a younger man. There are instances genuine love in this sort of marriages.

[Ashipa James Olashupo]

In any relationship, there must be the promotion of certain self-interests because it has been observed that man is naturally a selfish being. Therefore, once the ingredient of love is present, marry your heart-throb regardless of the age difference.