Being a virgin can seriously ruin your chances of getting married

[swagga]

My pple, I'm wondering if i should get out there and start gaining experience in bed room antics by the bucket load. I'm planning on getting married in 2yrs time, so I reckon if I start now and keep at it daily I might become a champion in time for my marriage. The reason why I'm panicking is because I've heard that men prefer to marry women who are champions at "it" while I'm a contender for Miss limited sex Experience. This coupled with the fact that I also have very bad mouth and attitude problem. Chei! my risk of being left on the shelve is very high indeed.
What do I do? short of grabbing the post man, any other good advice will be appreciated.

[oddiah francis derec]

This is quite strange an interesting,i do not believe in issues that contradict my faith whatever the excuse i remain stern believer in the holy books.Let no man tell you to spare your virginity for sexual experience that is cheap deception.Is it when you lay almost all the men in the street that gives you the required expertise for performing your conjugal duties in marriage no of course,you learn while in marriage because that is the only institution you collect certificate before graduation and it is instituted and ordained by God.the holy bible says marriage is honourable in all bed undefile.

[swagga]

Oddiah in your opening statement you said this is quite strange...., bros what is strange for here? i no get the yan for there. Thanks for your other comment sha, well recieved. My husband will just have to take me as he find me. If he dare complain i will tell him what i will tell him he will find rope. Oddiah you seem like a decent type nice to know sha..

[ANAELE SAMUEL]

If I must be very sincere to myself,the entire world & to God, I will openly adore,proudly value,happily appreciate,unrepentantly trust,solidly standby and above all,faithfully love my wife if I met her untouched or not deflowered by any man not even by accident. See ( Songs of Solomon 5 ; 2 ).
Reason;
(a) It helps in family togetherness.
(b) It helps in sexual compatibility.
(c) It creates an atmosphere of responsibility.
(d) It discourages Spread of HIV.
So my dear do not be tossed about by philosophies of men but stand for what you strongly and passionately believed in.
"you can do all things through HIM that strenghtens you"

[Osezua Stephens]

Swagga,do you want to hear the truth?Or you just want us to do something else and come out here to say something else - It is typical of an average African man.

Have you ever wondered why polygamist prefer a particular wife to the other-she might not necessarily be the one with the best behavior.Tell you what - na di way she dey whinn the man.

Men need good SEX !

If you are not good and a man tells he doesn't mind,pray he doesn't try it out with one of this "Calabar' girls because if he does,that my be the beginning to the end of your blissful marriage.

Swagga,if you no say you no good for bed tell your mama abi other experience women dem,make them teach you.But if shame dey catch you,tell dat your friend wey be sex therapist or make you go buy "green" film dey watch.

A word is enough for the wise.

In all these if I met her a virgin I'll forever adore her and pattern her to my own sexual desire.

[swagga]

Osezua, Thanks, near to the time of my marriage. I will as you advice watch lots of 'green films' and also speak to others. Unfortunately my friend will not be able to help much she is not a sex therapist she is a cognition expert. Her own sexual experience is also very limited,. I will be back to develope my arguments later, i'm looking after a sick friend today, she is not too gud today. C u all later

[Ashipa James Olashupo]

Sex, like other natural things, comes natural that you dont have to go through school to learn it. Maintain yourself and be of good behaviour and your right man will surely come your way.
If you have to gather sexual experience, what school did you attend to know that you need to eat food to quench hunger?
To cap it all, if you get married to your loved one, he will be very willing to teach or mould you to his taste.

[nwaneri ndidi]

Virginty is a good thing to keep ,until the right time.At this point your man will respect you, but you have to work on you attitude problem because no man likes a woman with such.Learn to Read your BIBLE,attend fellowships,and put it in prays.but remember your are the only one who can make it work.Good luck.

[Johnson Olubunmi]

hi,swagga you dont need that ,you dont need getting the experience before marriage all what you need is to keep yourself undefile until after your marriage,to be candid men need someone who is avirgin i.e someone they will be the first person to break her hymen l mean your husband and that is his pride and moreso that the opening is still very tight for him to really has a nice time with you rather than for your opening to have been loosened due to the fact that you have been doing it that will make you to be worthless and loose your dignity moreso, loosing your husband's trust for life .stay bless

[swagga]

Thanks, everyone for contributing. I'm definitely staying as I am until a rich man come forward and tempt me into marriage. Ndidi, thanks for your advice on how i can improve my attitude, advice noted. Thank you all.